Harsh words but so true!
I've heard this in a movie or some TV program and it hit me really hard. I started going through a list of people I might have upset but also remembering my own time sitting opposite a counsellor talking about other people in my life who upset me to the point I felt the need to talk it through with my therapist.
I couldn't help but think back to times when I was first promoted to be a manager. I was there to do a job and not to be liked. At least that's what I was told by my then regional director. Even though I got the results, the process wasn't pretty and I wouldn't be surprised if few people did mention me if not to their therapist, at least to the friends and family. And not in a pretty way. I was what I call a Task Manager - good at my job, delivering results so the promotion was inevitable. Even though I enjoyed the results and meeting the companies KPI's I didn't enjoy the hatred I was feeling from people who worked for me. I knew I had to change.
I started reading books and looking out for ways to improve my people skills. Talking to Managers I respected and liked and who were liked by others, more self development to talking to my staff and finding out what works and what doesn't
As a manager or a team leader you have a huge responsibility for people in your team. Not just to deliver results but to ensure people are treated with respect. Understanding and clear communication are very important. But also a desire to get the best out of people through identifying their strengths. Most people work in roles where creativity is required, no matter where you are or what you do you often have to think on your feet. Customer requests you need to deal with immediately, sudden unexpected changes to name but few. When you trust your team and they trust you, you can rest assured that they will be able to deal with challenging situations because as a manager you give them the courage and self believe they need to be able to deliver great results.
How would you feel if you found out that you're the main subject of your employees therapy session? Just typing this makes me feel uneasy.
Self reflection and awareness is the first step towards making the necessary changes to your management style.
I ended up in training because I believe people skill should be high on a list of training topics for anyone who manages people or is in any way, shape or form responsible for people.
We all deserve to work and live in a positive environment. All it takes is will to learn, find the right information and put it in practice in your daily life.
Can I help you gain the knowledge and the skills you need to improve your relationships? Get in Touch @ firstname.lastname@example.org